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继《蔡康永的情商课》&《蔡康永的说话之道》1、2热销六百万册后,康永再次奉上“人际关系之道”!《奇葩说》出镜推广!

600万读者用心之选。公认华语世界人际关系大神蔡康永亲自拆解人际关系的秘密,帮你建立和谐的人际关系。

零基础、无门槛的人际关系急救手册:积极引导、主动塑造你想要的人际关系;强势自我表达的同时,进行愉悦、简洁又高效的沟通;用不造成伤害的温柔手法化解人际冲突;疗愈原生家庭留下的痛楚童年回忆,在亲密关系中获得成长;成为懂得爱人、更能轻易获得别人青睐的情商高手。

为什么我们说爱一个人,有功力高下之别? 为什么我们说某某人是一个很糟糕的爱人,而某某人甚至根本就不懂爱? 为什么在人际关系里,你的付出常常换不来你所期待的回报? 如何借助别人的力量,让自己生活得更好? 如何应对父母对你的情感勒索?一直听父母的话,就对吗? 如何吸引有趣的陌生人,让他成为你的朋友、甚至视你为知音? 我与人之间,设置什么样的界线,能令我平静、自在、舒服? 请人帮忙,不但不会被讨厌,还会成为对方的好朋友? 你要做情绪的主人,还是被情绪牵着走?

康永哥以认知心理学的学术观点作理论根基,亲自拆解令人如沐春风的秘密。26个有趣的小故事,结合朋友圈里的真实生活案例,分类解读我们在人际关系上遇到的疑难杂症。每一个小故事都为你带来一个看得到的收获,送你马上就可以拿来使用的人际关系实战技巧。无论是在社交、家庭、感情关系还是职场,所有与人际关系相关的困惑,都可以从这本书中得到答案。

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知名画手瓜几拉绘制猫咪彩图,让萌萌的猫咪陪读员带你开心带你飞,可爱到爆炸的阅读体验,等你领取哟。



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为什么我们说爱一个人,有功力高下之别? 为什么我们说某某人是一个很糟糕的爱人,而某某人甚至根本就不懂爱?

为什么在人际关系里,你的付出常常换不来你所期待的回报? 如何应对父母对你的情感勒索?一直听父母的话,就对吗? 如何吸引有趣的陌生人,让他成为你的朋友、甚至视你为知音? 我与人之间,设置什么样的界线,能令我平静、自在、舒服? 请人帮忙,不但不会被讨厌,还会成为对方的好朋友?

如何借助别人的力量,让自己生活得更好? 为什么交朋友要越来越挑剔? 你要做情绪的主人,还是被情绪牵着走? 康永哥亲自拆解令人如沐春风的秘密,将“人际关系之道”用26个幽默小故事表达出来,教你如何积极引导、主动塑造你想要的人际关系,强势自我表达的同时,仍能进行简洁、愉悦而高效的沟通,用不造成伤害的温柔手法化解人际冲突,疗愈原生家庭留下的痛楚童年回忆,在亲密关系中获得成长,成为懂得爱人、更能轻易获得别人青睐的情商高手。


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从上个世纪的尾巴,开始参加公共活动,比方说,主持一些节目,写一些东西,讲些话,安慰或者伤害一些别人。生产地是台北,血统有时被认为是上海。 在加州大学洛杉矶分校UCLA念完影视制作的研究所。广为人知的节目,是主持的《康熙来了》及参与的《奇葩说》,广为人知的书是《蔡康永的说话之道》和《蔡康永的情商课》,导过一部电影《吃吃的爱》,也曾经和艺术家蔡国强及五月天的主唱阿信,分别一起做过行为艺术及装置艺术。另外,开了情商课的语音课程,在喜马拉雅FM播放。 觉得活着确实有活着的乐趣,但“意义”“快乐”“爱情”都被高估了,可以更放松、更恰当地看待这些事。 觉得写书是“探测自己”的过程。如果写出来的书,刚好也能够令看到的人拿去各自探测自己,这书就写得值得。 活着的根本乐趣之一,就是不确定,就是探勘与测量自己的内心。王国维说:“千门万户是耶非……唯有兹疑不可疑。” 只有疑过之后的明白,才是可以依靠的明白。


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“如果有人能在情商领域做到知行合一、理论与经验俱有,这个人一定是蔡康永,一定只有蔡康永。”

——马东

“康永哥这个情商课,要买要买。”

——李诞


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康永的序

1.提供给别人日行一善的机会,顺便收割友谊

2.当我们谈论朋友时,我们在谈些什么

3.活着没有范本,只有适合我们的剧本

4.动用内心的魔法,挣脱人生的困局

5. 如果被勒索,别马上投降,要讨价还价

6.你的人生为什么要拿来让大家都欢喜?

7.别装无辜!你不是“情感勒索”的受害者!

8.如何吸引有趣的陌生人,让他变成你的朋友?

9.与人来往时拿捏好分寸,不伤对方,也保护自己

10.主动引导、主动塑造我们期待的人际关系,不做委曲求全的滥好人

11.感觉缺爱时,探索一下缺乏的源头:是不是拿了根本与我无关的人生当成范本?

12.过得越幸福,就越觉得对不起爸爸妈妈?

13.在虚拟世界里,感受真实的、散发力量的人际关系

14.为关心的人设立“无战争区域”,才是真的贴心

15.没有别人,你就做不了自己

16.请人帮忙,不但不会被讨厌,还能交到好朋友?

17.借取别人的力量,让自己活得更好

18.交朋友,应该要越来越挑剔

19.人际关系不是我们的主人,我们才是人际关系的主人

20.用被动式讲话的你,是否习惯了扮演受害者呢?

21.我们如何断定,你是一个糟糕的爱人

22.当爸妈尝试对你进行威胁或利诱……

23.有了自知之明就像练了上乘内功,心思清明百毒不侵

24.吵架同时身兼人际关系的炸弹与彩蛋

25.准备一篇葬礼上的悼词,让人生的长假提早来临

26.让朋友陪你,成为更好的自己

康永的跋


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《蔡康永的情商课2:因为这是你的人生;奇葩说导师蔡康永2019新作,用温柔不带伤害的手法化解人际冲突》:
停止说“顺其自然”吧!I wantwhat I wantI
我没有很喜欢“顺其自然”这四个字,我相信你也不至于热爱这句话,只有想不出办法、已经无事可做时,我们才说“顺其自然”“随缘吧”。我们穿衣打扮可不会顺其自然,路边捡到什么就乖乖拿来穿,我们会选择适合的衣服。对于环绕身边的人,我们当然也要挑选适合我们需求的人,而不是随便顺其自然地就把自己的人生给打发了。
一开始,我想跟你一起研究一下,怎么认识你想认识的陌生人。
如果“认识陌生人”也算一种能力,那你早就具备这种能力了。要不然你到现在认识的这些人,都是哪里冒出来的?总不可能都是在娘胎里就认识好了的吧。
只是,曾几何时,我们认识人的能力退化了,我们认识的人,几乎都是为了生活必须去接触、而不得不认识的人。
但真正重要的能力,不是去认识这些顺便认识一下、或是不得不认识的人,而是去认识我们感觉值得认识、感觉想认识的人。
在这本书的一开始,我们来一步一步地温习我们从小就具备的这个能力吧。我在书里开设了一个酒吧,当作我们可以放松一点的实验室。在这个酒吧里,我们一起舒展筋骨、探寻自己在世界的位置吧。
有的人长相让人留下深刻印象,有的人长相则如同水泥墙上的雨痕,让人无法留下印象,这确实很不公平。然而,是谁告诉你有公平这回事的?
酒吧的门打开,走进来一位长相很整齐、但也很平淡的小姐。
酒吧灯光本来就够暗了,如果再长得很平淡,就连水泥墙上的雨痕都不会有人看见了。
照理说,整齐小姐应该不会引起太多人注目,可是没想到,整齐小姐缓缓走向吧台,一路上却有不少人望向她的背影。
今天在吧台轮值的是长得好看的酒保,酒保当然也算服务人员,可是这位酒保如同大部分好看的人,虽然不至于故意傲慢,但终究自动散发傲慢气息。平常他对于不起眼的客人不会失礼,但也就是酷酷的没什么反应,不过即使是他,也忍不住在整齐小姐坐下来的时候,偷瞄了她的背部一眼。
你一定以为整齐小姐的衣服背后挖了一个大洞,一直挖到尾椎处,或者她肩上攀着一个来找酒的微型土地公,对吧?
不对,衣服没有挖洞,只不过是衣服的原厂吊牌没有拆掉。扑克牌大小的吊牌,很显眼地在整齐小姐的颈子后方悬挂着,晃来晃去,连标价被画掉之后显示的打折价,都看得很清楚。
整齐小姐本人显然完全没有察觉这件事,她点了一杯柯梦波丹,拿在手上晃啊晃,她没有想到第一个跟她搭讪的,是旁边坐的鬈发女生。
“呃……这件衣服现在已经打六折了哦?”
整齐小姐很吃惊。
“你怎么会知道打六折?你也买了同一件吗?”整齐小姐问。
“我没买,可是我知道啊,原价两千,六折之后一千二。”
“所以,你在那家店工作?”整齐小姐问。
“也不是,是你这件衣服的吊牌很大,上面的价钱看得一清二楚。”
鬈发女生拉了拉吊牌,整齐小姐才发现,两个人同时哈哈大笑。
两个人就这样边喝边聊天,过了半个钟头,整齐小姐约好的另外一位朋友也到了酒吧,三个女生就聊得更热闹了。
为什么小S建议康永在肩膀上扛着妈妈?为什么康永会向来宾询问无知的问题?
认识新朋友很难吗?
有点难,但是有方法。
整齐小姐做了几件事,都有助于认识新朋友:
首先,她选择了进入一个对的地方。酒吧聚集了东张西望、不甘沉闷的人,而且酒精有助于大家卸下心防,比平常亲切。(比起来,如果选择去电影院的话,第一,电影院太黑,就算你七窍流血,也没什么人会注意到;第二,大家都在看电影,谁跟你东张西望,除非你选的是超级冷门的艺术片,整个电影院只坐了你跟他两个人,电影本身又常常五分钟都没发生什么动静,这样也许还有机会互相多看两眼。)
其次,她安排了一个对的时间。虽然她有约朋友,可是她比朋友早半小时抵达,也就是说,她起码有半小时是孤单独处的(有些女生在学校,连上厕所都喜欢拉着朋友一起,这样虽然在厕所遇到冤魂鬼娃娃的时候有个伴,但也就堵住了跟另一个落单的人交流的途径)。
地点跟时间都很不错,再来,新买的衣服的吊牌露出来,发挥了很重要的两个功能,这两个功能都有助于让陌生人认识你。
第一个功能是引起注意。你一定也有经验,衣服里外穿反了,有人会提醒你或是开两句玩笑。脸上粘了饭粒,腿上打了石膏,也都能引发同样的效果。当然,微妙的是,这不是整齐小姐故意的。如果你觉得衣服吊牌未免也太小,别人容易错过,你就故意在身上布置一个显眼的东西。如果是在肩膀上放一只黑鸟的标本,这还算低调,可是如果像我的节目搭档小S所建议的,在肩膀上扛着妈妈,这样就太故意了,酒吧里的人当然会吓到,除了驱魔道士,可能交不到其他新朋友。
……

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$1.66 $1.99 83折
Yami
欣葉
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欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折
Yami
欣葉
2种选择
欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折
Yami
欣葉
2种选择
欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折
Yami
欣葉
2种选择
欣叶 御大福 芋头麻薯 180g

周销量 600+

$1.66 $1.99 83折

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