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★男孩天生就是“冒险王”,男孩多是精力旺盛的“淘气包”,男孩,让父母苦恼不已的“破坏王”!
★“棍棒之下出孝子”,“不打不成才”,“打是疼,骂是爱”,教育男孩就得用打骂的方式?父母打骂男孩天经地义?
★打骂孩子可能会解决眼前的一个小问题,却给孩子的成长留下大隐患。暴力教育能让孩子变得顺从,不会让孩子变得聪明和懂事。
★教育男孩,要先走进男孩的世界。用最契合男孩心理特征、成长规律的方式,对男孩循循善诱,以理服人,才能给男孩创造一个良好的成长环境和一片快乐的天空。
★从来纨绔少伟男,男孩就要穷着养。饱经挫折的男孩更有出息,独立性强的男孩才能自立于世。对男孩进行品行意志的磨砺和锻炼,让男孩明白生活的艰辛,将来能够肩负重任,这是对男孩一生最大的投资。

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男孩与女孩相比,天生精力旺盛,好奇心更强,破坏性强。不少父母在教育男孩方面,采用粗暴的打骂方式,而且有的父母在打骂男孩的时候,高举爱的名义,口口声声说“我都是为你好”。殊不知,打骂男孩虽然能使男孩一时表面服从,但却会令其产生怨恨、逆反、畏惧等心理,只会压抑男孩的个性,甚至造成男孩人格的畸形。
《去梯言系列:不打不骂穷养男孩》强调尊重男孩的独立人格是家庭教育中的重要原则,从了解男孩的特征和走进男孩的内心世界开始,阐述现代父母应如何培养精英男孩,做个合格的好父母。其中包括怎样与男孩沟通,怎样夸奖、批评男孩,怎样培养男孩的品格,怎样提高男孩的情商、智商、财商等等,旨在帮助父母改变打骂男孩的恶习,与男孩建立健康的亲子关系,以科学的方式引导男孩健康成长,为男孩美好的未来打下坚实的基础!

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第1章男孩与女孩天生不一样
说一说男孩独有的“Y”染色体
查一查男孩调皮捣蛋的“祸首”
男孩与女孩谁更聪明大脑说了算
0~6岁——喜欢腻在母亲的怀抱里
6~13岁——想成为爸爸那样的男子汉
14岁到成年——进入盎然的青春时代

第2章男孩是最难“控制”的
男孩天生就是“冒险王”
每个男孩都有“英雄情结”
男孩多是精力旺盛的“淘气包”
每个男孩都想当“大王”
让父母苦恼不已的“破坏王”
“威信”不是教训出来的
别让打骂男孩成为一种习惯
以“骂”代“教”不可行
以“打”代“教”不可取

第3章不打不骂做个好父母
视心情好坏对待男孩缺乏理智
无原则地随意乱发脾气不可取
父母应学会调节自己的情绪
以身垂范,好父母胜过好老师
父母要拿捏好爱男孩的“分寸”
教育男孩父母态度要一致
别忽视家庭环境对男孩的影响
给男孩创建良好的成长环境

第4章自古纨绔少伟男
穷人的孩子为何当家早
溺爱是男孩成长的大敌
不要让男孩坐享其成
警惕男孩的“王子病”
对男孩的攀比心理进行及时疏导
过分阔绰的生活会助长男孩的坏习气
避免男孩产生“小皇帝”的优越感
警惕男孩的“蛋壳心理”
能干的父母,夺走了男孩成长的机会
巨额财产难保孩子一生富贵平安

第5章穷养男孩并非放养
男孩的魄力从苦难中来
对男孩“狠”一点
为男孩创造条件适应社会
大多数的成功者都有过“穷”养经历
让男孩有意识地管理自己
男孩娇滴滴,没有竞争力
不经风雨何以见彩虹
强健男孩的内心
磨难是男孩成长的礼物
克服苦难是艺术

第6章走进男孩的内心世界
理解,孩子的世界像水晶
纠正,让孩子不再霸道
反省,让孩子认识自己的错误
宣泄,给孩子一个释放情感的机会
暗示,巧妙引导不听话的孩子
冷静,处理好孩子的过分要求
疏导,让孩子的心理没压力
尊重,孩子也有隐私
信任,他的时间他做主

第7章时刻关注男孩的情绪
不能让孩子成为情绪的俘虏
让孩子意识到不良情绪的危害
帮助孩子梳理自己的情绪
冲动让孩子失去理智
教会孩子释放不良情绪的方法
告诉孩子几个快乐的法则
对待脾气暴躁的孩子怎么办
敌意,让孩子变得好斗
嘲笑,让孩子变得畏缩

第8章穷养的男孩内心很强大
对症下药,让男孩走出自闭的天地
让自卑的孩子昂首向前
帮男孩甩掉“胆小鬼”的帽子
莫让孩子的虚荣心同身体一起“发育”
引导孩子不盲目攀比
不让孩子生活在恐惧中
百害而无一利的自我否定
帮孩子克服害羞心理
帮男孩驱散紧密相随的孤独
调整孩子的依赖心理
改正孩子的骄傲自满
引导孩子告别“网瘾”

第9章不打不骂给男孩成功个性
为孩子做个好榜样
诚实是为人处世的根本
教孩子以谦逊为美德
让孩子拥有一颗博爱宽容的心
会分享的孩子才会爱
责任感决定孩子能承担什么
独立性决定孩子能做什么事
意志力决定孩子的路能走多远
让孩子明白荣誉是什么
培养孩子积极乐观的心态
信用是可以“传染”的
懂得放弃
给孩子一颗感恩的心
孩子能够自我约束
家有环保小公民

第10章让男孩锻炼出健康的体魄
让男孩养成早睡早起的作息习惯
鼓励儿子进行体育锻炼
让孩子睡硬板床
男孩睡得好身体就好
小病少吃药,增强男孩的抵抗力
要多带男孩到大自然中走一走
保证男孩有足够的睡眠时间
不要让男孩娇生惯养

第11章教男孩培养绅士风度
不要教男孩虚伪地客套
虚荣会毁了孩子
让男孩知道什么是美和丑
“人要衣装”并非“人靠衣装”
防止孩子虐待小动物
教育男孩热情接待来访者
让孩子知道道歉不可怕
让孩子记得说“谢谢”
纠正男孩骂人的不良习惯
帮助男孩建立所有权的观念

第12章帮男孩跨越青春期障碍
警惕,男孩已经进入青春期
父母向左走,男孩向右走
青春期的男孩像刺头
做孩子第一任性教育老师
敏锐发现男孩性意识的觉醒
早恋是青春的坟墓
分享阳光、分担风雨
电脑那端的小朋友
教男孩正确面对开放的社会
不要养个“电视孤独儿”
别让男孩变成烟鬼、酒鬼
严防孩子沾上毒品

第13章 把男孩培养成男子汉
应变能力:让孩子学会随着情况变
记忆力,把孩子培养成学习的天才
理财能力,让孩子懂得金钱的价值
动手能力,让你的孩子心灵手巧
时间管理能力,教孩子掌控时间和生活的学问
观察能力,给孩子一个国际化的视野
幽默才能,让快乐一生相随
艺术才能,让一切更精彩
领导能力,让孩子从容一生

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第3章 不打不骂做个好父母
在我国,父母情绪不好时,往往喜欢拿孩子出气,如工作不顺,身体不适,或处于更年期,更容易对孩子发火。对男孩发火,不仅无法纠正男孩错误的行为,反而会使男孩在生理、心理上产生消极的应激状态。所以,要想帮助男孩改正错误,避免对抗,父母首先要学会控制、调节自己的情绪。

视心情好坏对待男孩缺乏理智
有的父母一心想把男孩教育好,但是却没有很好运用现代教育理念,经常感情用事,忽冷忽热,情绪不是很稳定。心情不好时便对男孩没有好气,即使一点儿小事,也会暴跳如雷,甚至大动干戈;心情好的时候,就对男孩和颜悦色,溺爱无比,男孩有什么要求都充分满足,父母这样喜怒无常,总会弄得男孩无所适从。
如果是遇到爱吵架的夫妻,喜欢拿男孩出气,成了最常见的情况。当然,这是最不可取的。父母爱吵架,无疑给男孩造成心理阴影,这样父母再管教男孩时就会失去威信,男孩也会变得越来越不听话。父母一旦在孩子面前没有了威信,再管孩子就会变得困难了。
男孩的父母要想教育好男孩,一定要有理智、讲方法。爱男孩要讲分寸,严厉也要有尺度。例如,当男孩已经认识到错误时,就不应再批评或是惩罚他。
有一个小男孩,平时很调皮。父母要打他时,他总是流泪讨饶,但是父母却照打不误。后来,无论父母怎样打他,他也不哭不喊,连眼泪也不流了,只是用怨恨的目光瞪着父母。要知道,男孩子天生就是淘气的,就是精力旺盛。如果他一淘气你就打他,那势必对男孩的身心造成影响。有些父母也知道这些道理,但是自己脾气不好,一旦情绪上来,想控制都控制不住。
不少父母,平时对男孩百依百顺,但是,一旦男孩违反了自己的意愿,或是不尽如人意的时候,特别是学习成绩不好的时候,便气不打一处来。即使男孩有自己的特殊原因,父母也照样拳脚相加,没有半点儿宽容之意。当男孩明白,在父母面前解释、求饶是没有用的时,也就不再解释,不再流泪,父母要发怒的时候,就等着父母的打骂,但是却已经产生了逆反心理。
培根说:“幸福的家庭,父母靠情感当家。”教育男孩是一门学问,要学会抓住教育时机去获得教育的最佳效果。教育男孩不应该感情用事,而应抓住教育时机,动之以情,晓之以理,帮助男孩去成长。
一些父母因为性格喜怒无常,善感情用事,在对待男孩上也时而严格要求,时而放纵溺爱。一位美国学者曾这样评价中国的家庭教育:“中国父母在向孩子表达爱时,往往不在乎他们内心里想些什么,头脑里有什么困惑,是否觉得不安,而更多的是问孩子吃得饱不饱、穿得暖不暖。”也许中国的父母从来没有意识到心理教育对孩子健康成长的重要性,虽然为男孩提供了优越的物质生活,却从不关心孩子的心灵世界。他们可以节衣缩食给男孩买钢琴,也可以因为男孩钢琴练得不好而拳脚相加。
许多男孩在这种畸形的教育方式下,不但不能成“龙”,甚至成人也难。他们一方面厌倦父母的精神枷锁;另一方面,当他们脱离了父母的羽翼时,又感到无所适从。每个当父母的都应该反省一下,这种不理智、不智慧的教育让男孩怎么健康成长!简单地采取胡萝卜加大棒的方式是不能培养出优秀人才的。
有位年轻的母亲脾气很不好,喜欢感情用事,乱发脾气。一次,她的儿子饭后帮助大人扫地,哪知偏遇上这位母亲跟自己的婆婆怄气,见儿子拿着扫把在厅中舞弄,不分青红皂白上去就是一巴掌,打得男孩哇哇哭,不知道自己错在哪里,以前自己帮着扫地的时候,妈妈总是夸奖的。
可怜男孩莫名其妙地挨了揍,他以后还肯拿扫把吗?男孩不拿扫把还不要紧,可怕的是男孩将来不懂得分清是非,遇事同样感情用事,那就麻烦了。另外,如此管教男孩,等男孩渐渐长大懂得些道理了,便会感到委屈而且不服气,天长日久,对父母的尊敬也会一落千丈,那时自食其果的还是父母。
所以,男孩的父母不要感情用事地对待男孩,更不要拿男孩出气。男孩的确比女孩更淘气,当他犯了严重错误,对他进行批评教育是必要的,至少可以使他深刻地记住下一次不可重犯。但是现实生活中却经常是这样,不少男孩挨揍并不跟他犯的错误大小有关,而是和父母的情绪好坏有很大关系。有的父母心情舒畅时,无论男孩犯了多大的错误,都能睁一只眼睛、闭一只眼睛地不了了之。可是一旦心情不好时,哪怕男孩犯一丁点儿错误,就开始大发雷霆。
感情用事对待男孩,反映出了父母自身的素质问题。因此,要改变感情用事的毛病,做父母的就应不断地学习,提高自己当父母的水平。多学习一些心理学、教育学的知识,懂得感情用事会给男孩带来不良的影响。加强自身修养,善于克制自己的感情,少一点儿感情用事,多一点儿冷静思考,增强自己的育儿责任感,唯有如此,才能提高教育男孩的效果。
记住,男孩也是一个独立的个体,他也有自己的独立人格,做父母的应充分尊重他,这样才能培养出人格健全的男孩。感情用事对待男孩,是对男孩人格的不尊重,其危害是比较大的。不尊重男孩的人格,也是对自己的不尊重。试想,如果父母对男孩经常是感情用事,一开始,男孩可能会慑于父母的地位和权威服从父母。时间一长,男孩会由无所适从变为不理不睬,以致到最后男孩也会对父母反抗,与父母犟嘴,对父母不尊重。此时,父母再怎么管教,男孩都不会听话。
所以,父母不要再以自己的心情好坏去决定怎么对待男孩,要考虑男孩的特性,考虑男孩的内心感受,做一个理智的父母。

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If you choose “Redeem automatically” as your delivery method, your gift card balance will be reload automatically after your order has been processed successfully;

If you choose “Send to Email”as your delivery method, the card number and CVV will be sent to the email address automatically;

Any user can use the card number and CVV to redeem the gift card, please keep your gift card information safely. If you have any trouble receiving email, please contact Yami customer service;

Yami gift card can be used to purchase both Yami owned or Marketplace products;

Yami gift card will never expire;

Yami gift card balance does not have to be used up at once;

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Return Policy

Gift card that has already been consumed is non-refundable.

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Service Guarantee

Yami Free Shipping over $49
Yami Easy Returns
Yami Ships from United States

Shipping

  • United States

    Standard Shipping is $5.99 (Excluding Alaska & Hawaii). Free on orders of $49 or more.

    Local Express is $5.99 (Available in Parts of CA, NJ, MA & PA). Free on orders of $49 or more.

    2-Day Express (Includes Alaska & Hawaii) starts at $19.99.

Return Policy

You may return product within 30 days upon receiving the product. Items returned must be new in it's original packing, including the original invoice for the purchase. Customer return product at their own expense.

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Service Guarantee

Yami Cross-store Free Shipping over $69
Yami 30-days Return

Yami-China FC

Yami has a consolidation warehouse in China which collects multiple sellers’ packages and combines to one order. Our Yami consolidation warehouse will directly ship the packages to your door. Cross-store free shipping over $69.

Return Policy

You may return products within 30 days upon receiving the products. Sellers take responsibilities for any wrong shipment or missing items. Packing needs to be unopened for any other than quality issues return. We promise to pack carefully, but because goods are taking long journey to destinations, simple damages to packaging may occur. Any damages not causing internal goods quality problems are not allowed to return. If you open the package and any quality problem is found, please contact customer service within three days after receipt of goods.

Shipping Information

Yami Consolidation Service Shipping Fee $9.99(Free shipping over $69)

Sellers in China will ship their orders within 1-2 business days once the order is placed. Packages are sent to our consolidation warehouse in China and combined there. Our Yami consolidation warehouse will directly ship the packages to you via UPS. The average time for UPS to ship from China to the United States is about 10 working days and it can be traced using the tracking number. Due to the pandemic, the delivery time may be delayed by about 5 days. The package needs to be signed by the guest. If the receipt is not signed, the customer shall bear the risk of loss of the package.

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Service Guarantee

Free shipping over 69
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Shipping

Yami Consolidated Shipping $9.99(Free shipping over $69)


Seller will ship the orders within 1-2 business days. The logistics time limit is expected to be 7-15 working days. In case of customs clearance, the delivery time will be extended by 3-7 days. The final receipt date is subject to the information of the postal company.

Yami Points information

All items are excluding from any promotion or points events on Yamibuy.com

Return Policy

You may return product within 30 days upon receiving the product. Items returned must be new in it's original packing, including the original invoice for the purchase. Customer return product at their own expense.

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