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作为心理学家,作者从心理学角度剖析80后、90后的年轻职场人应该具备的交流技巧、心理素质和心态准备,提供了简明清晰、易操作的55个职场必备技巧和案例说明,使年轻人在该掌握的年纪学会职场规矩、礼仪和做事方法,不会因为不得法而枉费青春,并加以练习,经过多年的职场历练后成功成为职场达人。

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为了让三四十岁的你不感到苦恼和困扰,本书从20岁时应该学会的交流技巧,确保自己职场地位的心理战术,让十年后的你成为成功者的心理作战,20岁时需要养成的生活习惯,以及成为受众人好评之人的心理技巧五个方面入手,介绍了年轻人在职场和生活中必须学会和了解的*小限度的规矩、礼仪和工作方法。其建议可适用于不同职业、不同需求的读者。

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内藤谊人

心理学家,立正大学特邀讲师,庆应义塾大学社会学研究科博士。出版了大量心理学著作,其具有实践性的、具体的心理建议深受读者好评,同时也拥有数量众多的追随者。


袁斌,云南昆明人,上海外国语大学日语语言文学硕士,喜爱日本历史、文学与文化,曾译有东野圭吾、横沟正史、太宰治等多位作家的多部作品。

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第1 章 20 岁时应该学会的交流技巧 1
为何要学会构筑人际关系的技巧 2
良好的人际关系对一生的影响 6
人际关系需要长期磨炼 9
自己动手创造机会 12
别对对方抱有期望 16
尽快抛弃“还有下次”的天真想法 19
主动问候对方 23
切勿轻易背叛他人 26
学会对话的基础 30

IX
一定要把话说完整 34
“口是心非”的技巧 37
趁着年轻,学会“请客” 40
第2 章 确保自己职场地位的心理战术 47
做“职责以外”的事 48
不要对上司分派的任务口吐怨言 52
以“不能让人认可自己的能力”为耻 55
随时做好接受重任的准备 59
准备三个或三个以上的备选方案 62
养成爱惜物品的习惯 65
切勿吐露内心的怨言 68
找出上司身上的优点 71
在他人开口前行动 74
失误一次就会降低评价 77
X
改变你一生的心理技巧
第3 章 让十年后的你成为成功者的心理作战 85
成功者无一例外都是“好学者” 86
时刻不忘学习 89
从失败中有所得 92
要感谢凡事都不会立刻出现成果 95
为自己准备一份奖励 99
立志做个善于关心他人的人 102
从他人身上偷师学艺 106
用提问来取悦对方 109
要学会分清事情的轻重缓急 113
寻找一个能够同呼吸共命运的伙伴 116
只有“阿谀奉承”之人才能成功 120
第4 章 20 岁时需要养成的生活习惯 127
逃避不如正面碰撞 128

XI
学会发现乐趣 131
增加兴趣爱好的多样性 135
自我评价越苛刻越好 138
学会勤勤恳恳 141
趁着年轻,莽撞一些 144
学会为他人着想 147
永远保持一颗新人的心 150
学会控制心中的怒气 153
尽情展现你的洁癖 156
让你轻松学会巧妙地夸奖他人的诀窍 159
第5 章 成为受众人好评之人的心理技巧 165
向你心中的VIP 献媚 166
做一名“最佳配角” 169
调整好自己的身体状况 172
为不起眼的事感到开心 175
切勿三心二意 177
XII
改变你一生的心理技巧
把工作当成“运动”、“游戏” 181
学会面不改色地撒谎 184
在工作中找到乐趣 188
做个另有图谋的人 191
学会分辨场面话和心里话 194
设法保持联系 197
后记 205

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《改变你一生的心理技巧(修订本)》:
为何要学会构筑人际关系的技巧“拿到各种证书,在工作中发挥作用。”“有了各种证书,凡事都会方便一些。”许多20岁的年轻人都会心怀这样的想法,开始学习并报考各种技能证书的考试。
这种想要学习上进的姿态,确实令人称道。
但是,我个人却对“为了拿到某证书而学习”的这种做法并不感冒。之所以这么说,是因为这些证书中,有许多都是“即使拿到证书也没有任何意义”的(在这里,我就不一一列举这类证书都包括哪些了),所以即使拿出精力去学,也只是在浪费时间罢了。
技能证书也和蔬菜一样,存在“时令性”。
比方说,我们知道有一种证书叫做“国家建造师证书”。泡沫经济时期,这种证书的考试曾经是超级大热门,考生甚至超过了40万人。而到了今天,参加这种考试的考生只剩下20万人左右了。之所以会如此,也是因为如今泡沫经济破灭,想要取得这种技能证书的人,就只剩下那些当真对此赖以为生的房地产界的业内人士了。
即使那些如今依旧走红吃香的技能资格,10年后、20年后,是否还能继续发挥作用呢?我想这应该很难做到吧。
我这么说,倒也并非彻底否定所有的技能资格考试,但是,从“努力过后是否一定能够有所成果”这个问题出发,我个人并不推荐参加技能资格的考试。
从这一点出发,人际关系技巧的情况又如何呢?人际关系方面,是绝对不会出现“没有任何用处”的情况的。不管社会如何变化,人与人之间,都必然需要交流与往来。构筑人际关系的技巧,是不存在“时令性”的。从没有哪种构筑人际关系的技巧会在10年后变得再不需要。
的确,随着手机等移动通信工具的发展,有人指出“人际关系也开始出现了转变”,但是,人际关系的基本法则却没有任何的改变。
能够巧妙地表扬对方的人,相应地也比较容易获得他人的正面评价。而总能守时守约的人,在商界中也更容易获得他人的信任。不论社会与时代如何变化,这条基本原理恐怕都是不会改变的。
因此,20岁时应当学会的,就是人际关系的技巧。
这项技术和能力,不论到了何时,走到何地,都会发挥效用。
“怎样才能让他人感到开心?”“怎样才能让他人感到愉悦?”“怎样才能让他人感到满足?”在此,作者希望各位读者能够贪婪地把这些具体方法全都学会。我敢保证,《改变你一生的心理技巧(修订本)》中的技巧在你今后的工作生活中能发挥出更大的作用。
加拿大卡尔顿大学的洛莱因·戴克博士曾以在各个领域取得过巨大成功的男女为对象(男子平均年龄42岁,女子平均年龄39岁),向他们提出“你成功的理由何在”的问题。
其结果,不论男女排在第一位的成功原因都是“人际关系”,而其中更有75%的人承认,“因为人际关系没有问题,所以事业才得以一帆风顺”。
20岁,该学的东西有很多。
但是,如果我问起“在如此之多的该学的东西中,请选出尤为必要的是什么”这个问题,估计很多人都会毫不犹豫地回答说“是构筑人际关系的技巧”吧。只要掌握了构筑人际关系的技巧,在职场、情场,乃至整个人生,所有的一切都能变得一帆风顺。
总而言之,一定要积极地去与人交往。
这,难道不正是他人对20岁的年轻人的最大要求吗?
……
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前 言

本书讲述了年轻读者在20 岁时绝对要学会的心理技巧。

不管是在艺术界、体育界,还是在商界中,都有一定要抓住眼前机会的“直觉”。知道这一点的人和不知道这一点的人有着天壤之别。

那么,本书为何要着眼于“20 岁”呢?难道30 岁就不行吗?40 岁是否就不适合了?从结论上来说,必须要20 岁才行。其原因就在于,如果不在20 岁时学会这些重要的技巧,那么到了30岁、40 岁时,经常会出现“为时已晚”的情况。

不知各位读者是否听说过“临界期”这个词?磨炼某项技术,拓展某种能力,是存在最适合的时期的。如果白白浪费了那段时间,学习就会无法顺利进行。这就是临界期。

比方说,在罗猴出生3~6 个月的这段临界期里,将它与其他同伴隔离开来的话,即使之后再把它放回群体中,它也无法与其他猴子一同玩耍,无法与母猴进行交配。如果错过了在这宝贵的临界期中学习的机会,那么之后的学习就会变得极为困难。

人也同样存在临界期。普遍认为要学习一门语言,熟悉掌握绝对的音感, 3 岁之前的时期是最为适合的。当然了,虽然3 岁以后也同样能够学习外语、磨炼音感,但学习的进展就不会那样顺利了。

商务人士也同样存在临界期。这个临界期,就是20 岁。如果不在20 岁的时候学会与他人交流相处的方式方法,到了30 岁的时候,就会为此吃尽苦头。20 岁时做不到的事,是不可能在30 岁的时候突然变得能够办到的。所以社交技能最好还是在20 岁的时候彻底掌握。

在这个时间段里,如果能够尽可能多地和人接触,不去有意地区分自己喜欢的人和讨厌的人,留意训练自己与他人交往的方式,那么即使到了30 岁、40 岁,也不会因此而感到困惑了。

工作也一样。怎样才能让自己鼓起干劲?怎样才能让自己工作轻松?怎样才能事半功倍?解决这些问题的最适合时期,同样也是在20 岁前后。

“我已经30 岁了,是不是就不行了?”“我已经40 岁了,还有办法补救吗?”或许,也有这样的读者。

的确,人是具有充分的可塑性的,未必到了三四十岁就再也无法改变了。但可以确定的一点是:一旦过了30 岁,那么人就很难再改变自己了。

美国国家老龄化研究所( National Institute onAging)的安东尼奥·特拉查诺博士曾在其研究结果中表明,人一旦过了30 岁就再难改变了。与之类似的研究可谓不胜枚举。

我认为,学习新事物、让自己成长的最佳时期,也就是所谓“商务人士的临界期”,就是20 岁。常言道“趁热打铁”。毫无疑问,锻炼自我,让自己不断成长的最佳时期正是20 岁。因此,我才会希望各位读者能够有效地度过自己的20 岁。为此,作为具体的实践指南,各位读者若能在本书中找到启示,那就是我的荣幸。

我自己已经年近40 岁。虽然30 岁的时候,我也曾经学习过不少的东西,但心中却也时常会萌生“可恶,要是我能在20 岁就学会这些事该多好”的想法。

眼下还依旧处在20 岁的各位读者,各位的面前是无限的可能性。

为了将这些可能性释放出来,我们必须在20 岁时学会只有20 岁时才能学到的东西。如此一来,等到各位到了30 岁的时候,就不会出现我心中的这种懊悔了。那么接下来,就请各位读者陪伴我,一同走到本书的最后吧。


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