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温柔要有,但不是妥协,我们要在安静中,选择不慌不忙的坚强。

女人一定要好好爱自己,除了要好好保养,好好工作赚钱之外,还要不断提高自身的素质和修养。当你由内而外散发着迷人香气的时候,你会发现,那些曾经的揣摩、猜疑与留连,都是枉然。

你若盛开,蝴蝶自来;你若悲哀,花都不开!只有内心强大的女人才能笑到最后,学习林徽因,做有质感的女人!

《民国才女传奇:林徽因+张爱玲传(全2册)》


《林徽因:不慌不忙的坚强》


《张爱玲传:失望是一种幸福》


Content Description

林徽因,一个完美的绝代女性典范

她是清高的,她是世俗的,她是感性的,她是理智的,她也是浪漫的,她是民国才女中不肯屈服于命运、会选择命运的女子。这都是她,不是很纯粹,但值得细细品味。

走近她,了解她的生活、她的文字、她的思想,欣赏她在安静中不慌不忙的坚强意志,体会她在尘世的喧嚣中寂静安然的心态,学习她的交际魅力和处世智慧。

做内心强大的女人——自信、乐观、睿智、豁达、理性、坚强。


Author Description

赵一,笔名榼藤子、蓝渊,畅销书作家,图书策划人。她内心柔软而不失坚韧,尝遍百般滋味,却始终跟随心灵的脚步,用优美的文字书写恬淡的心境,让你在温暖的午后、夜幕的青灯下诗意如阳、心静如水。


Catalogue

【烟雨潇潇,炼就一颗莲花心】

早慧的心智

爱上了书香

一辈子的心结

用成人的眼光看世界

命运的迁徙

伦敦永恒的轻雾

康桥烟雨——从未贪恋

离开是一个人的决定

刹那惊鸿,一切只是刚刚好

病榻相守,不离不弃

苍松竹梅三友图

伤心康大

最美时光

宁坐寂寞的船,独自拉纤

【守着岁月,用一生回答】

收获最美的爱情

用一生回答

独特的新婚之旅

东大筑梦

第一次毕业设计

在心中修篱种菊

优雅睿智的女主人

人间四月,悄然绽放

别了志摩

“八宝箱”之谜

与冰心的龃龉

心怀梦想,内心笃定

为理想孑然而走

与宁公遇对话

执笔筑史

【在安静中,不慌不忙的坚强】

硖石之伤

不可言传的平和静美

那些隐匿的心事

徽因如水

温柔要有,但不是妥协

哭三弟恒

至死不渝的异国情谊

触动人心最隐晦的暖

静谧的世外桃源

倔强木棉

飞往天堂的战机

乱世中守住清明

【人间四月,用生命创造辉煌】

一切都会好起来

春城的美好时光

清华建筑系的创办

病中气韵

国徽的诞生

灵魂丰碑

古城保卫战

京派文学的精神领袖

浮动着生命气息的旋律

柔软宁静的一方天地

万古人间四月天

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【在安静中,不慌不忙的坚强】

一季光阴,悠悠老去。爱的心湖,在岁月里泛起层层暖意。

好的爱情,定是这般静气,亦如梁思成和林徽因。无须快意恩仇,情感泛滥,只要十指相扣,轻执杯盏,在每一个黄昏日落,静候烟霞,安静到无言。

他不浪漫,无法点燃她如火的热情,只如一颗星辰,甘愿隐没在她的光芒里,用自己的深情,伴她走过地老天荒。流年心事,她曾为他说出一句话:“我得用一生去回答你。”生死相依,不离不弃。

从执子之手走向与子偕老,他们相偎相依,温柔了一世的光景。

也许,在林徽因眼里,她只是做了一个妻子该做的一切,默默陪伴,用爱守护一个家。无论逆境还是顺境,都要从容优雅,亦如这句话:“温柔要有,但不是妥协,我们要在安静中,不慌不忙地坚强。”

岁月带走了她的亲人,磨蚀了她的容颜,却终究没有枯萎她的才情。那些如梦的诗语,是她散落的心事,化作一泓清水,一缕心音,柔软了尘世里,多少倦怠的心。

庭院静好,岁月无惊。此情,唯美。此景,心醉。

徽因如水

林徽因具备一个女人独有的魅力,不但能征服男人,也能赢得其他女性的倾慕。

她是别人眼中“一位高雅的、可爱的姑娘,像一件精美的瓷器”,她“相貌又极美,真像是从天而降的仙女”,“每次她一到校,学校立即轰动起来,她身着西服,脚穿咖啡色高跟鞋,摩登,漂亮,而又朴素高雅”。就连梁思成的续弦林洙也对丈夫的亡妻赞叹有加:“她是我一生中所见到的最美、最有风度的女子,她的一举一动、一言一语,都充满了美感,充满了生命,充满了热情。”

从别人对林徽因的评价里,大抵能想象,这个女人有着怎样静美的气质,才叫人夸赞不已。

林家有女初长成。

当其他女孩还沉浸在琐碎的家庭生活中时,林徽因已经选择在更广阔的天地里实现自己的抱负。

她是一个混合体,是逻辑严谨的建筑师,亦是感情细腻的诗人。面对徐志摩与金岳霖的追求和守护,她表现出令人惊异的理智,选择了志同道合的梁思成做丈夫。她的外表和性格也是矛盾的,人美如花,心思缜密,却有着男人般豪爽的性格、高傲的眼界。

我们可以肯定地说,林徽因绝对没有辜负梁思成。无论是车祸之后的精心照料,还是二人结婚之后的夫唱妇随。人们知道梁思成在建筑上的成就,但若没有林徽因相伴,梁思成的成就也许不会如此耀眼。林徽因在丈夫的研究中,做了大量不为人知的工作。一切都是默默地进行,她没有署上自己的名字。因为她与梁思成早已不分彼此。

难怪人们说,像女人的女人,魅力并不致命,像男人的女人才最要命。林徽因就是这样,不但能同男性建立纯粹的友谊,与他们共同畅想人生,同时,又能把握自己的情感,使它不流于轻浮,不会在如洪流般的情感中沉沦。

林徽因把聪慧这个词领悟得很好,任何时候,任何境况,她都不会让自己的生活失控,让自己过于狼狈。

在民国那如梦似幻的黑白剪影里,美貌与才华兼备的女人不止林徽因一个,引人入胜的爱情故事也不止这一桩。阮玲玉、张爱玲、蒋碧薇、萧红……她们有出众的天赋和才华、令人羡慕的容貌与智慧,却总是因为爱情,伤了自己。大抵是那份在爱情里的执着太过锋利,生生割断了聪慧的弦,她们才变“傻”了,被伤了。

但林徽因,却是民国才女中的异类。

世界上最坚韧的不是石头,是水,她就像流水,灵活柔软地避开了执着的利刃,从那风花雪月的迷阵中,全身而退。

不得不承认,无论在生活上还是感情上,女人都比男人需要更多的智慧。她既要能巧妙地躲过路边的荆棘,同时又不至于划伤自己,还要在每次起程时有不畏不惧的勇气,这一切,真的不容易。

林徽因是一位复杂的女性。她善良、聪慧,用现在的话说EQ极高,她能理解对方,为对方设身处地地着想,从不会嘲笑别人。但从另一方面看,她又是那么的理智甚至冰冷无情。面对热烈追求的徐志摩她能决然地转身,面对默默守护的金岳霖她以礼相待,面对丈夫的宽容呵护她也能坦然相告“我同时爱上了两个人”。

从某种程度上来说,林徽因算得上是爱情的终结者吧!她不是一个特别适合谈恋爱的人。恋爱大概是属于徐志摩陆小曼那一类人的,赴汤蹈火,无怨无悔,蜡炬成灰泪始干。而林徽因的性格中占上风的始终是理智。她是一个特别清醒、特别从容的人,不会为了某种情绪让自己深深沉沦。她有属于自己的坚持和原则,有自己独立的空间。所以她能留下许多的瞬间和剪影,有些人记住的是她的柔情婉转,有些人记住的是她的淡然自若,有些人记住的是她的热情执着。或许正是由于她的复杂,不可名状,才会有那么多人仰慕她,爱恋她,甚至一生一世守在她身边。

温柔要有,但不是妥协

她有着倨傲的心性、出众的才情、不俗的抱负,却并非像人们所想,是个温柔静默的女人。她太聪明,对事物往往有着自己独到的见解,且从不隐匿于心,喜欢在朋友面前表达自己对问题敏锐的分析。正是这种清透、毫无掩饰的品性,让她成为民国女子中,一个美丽的传奇。

“民国第一才女”,这个称号对林徽因而言,无可非议。从文学、建筑到艺术,她都有非凡的贡献。凑巧,她还生得一副清秀的容貌,这样的女人,对于20世纪30年代的大部分中国女性来说,是一个不可想象的存在。

读林徽因的诗句,人们总会在脑海里勾勒出一个模糊而又美丽的身影,那样的眼波流转,顾盼生姿。事实上,林徽因的性格动静皆宜,她心直口快,想说什么说什么,批评起人来也毫不留情面。费慰梅曾经这样形容她的犀利言谈:“她的谈话和她的著作一样充满了创造性。话题从诙谐的逸事到敏锐的分析,从明智的忠告到突发的愤怒,从发狂的热情到深刻的蔑视,几乎无所不包。”

林徽因的善谈是很出名的,她的思想活跃,仿佛永远充满着热情和强大的生命力。或许正因为这样,对于世间的完美,她有着更为苛刻的要求。据她的学生回忆,东北大学建筑系的一堂素描课上,有个男生怎么也画不好一幅作品,在林徽因的耐心指导下,仍然不得要领,急得她脱口而出:“这简直不像人画的!”那男生羞愤交加,一气之下转了系。

林徽因生性好强,似乎永远都有忙不完的事。梁思成和妻子在一起,大多时候都是温和、谦让的,为此,他从朋友那里获得了“烟囱”这个绰号。但日子一长,事情一乱,梁思成这“烟囱”也会有添堵的时候。有时,两人争论起专业问题,梁思成就会用知识分子特有的固执,对林徽因寸步不让,导致最后两人不欢而散。

林徽因发火不会歇斯底里,但语言尖锐犀利。她说这些伤人的话,几乎都是用英文表达。即使并没有什么激动的神色,那冷冰冰的眼神,也能让人心情跌到谷底。

林徽因也清楚自己的弱点,什么事情到她这里都会被放大。因为求好心切,争强好胜,烦躁的感觉自己加倍。什么事情都想做好,凑在一起就成了平方,像大雪一样快要把她给淹没了。这一点,李健吾先生曾这样表达了自己的看法:

(她)绝顶聪明,又是一副赤热的心肠,口快,性子直,好强,几乎妇女全把她当作仇敌……她缺乏妇女的幽娴的品德。对于任何问题感到兴趣,特别是文学和艺术,具有本能的直接的感悟。生长富贵,命运坎坷;修养让她把热情藏在里面,热情却是她的生活的支柱;喜好和人辩论——因为她爱真理,但是孤独,寂寞,抑郁,永远用诗句表达她的哀愁。

林徽因是典型的“刀子嘴豆腐心”,但凡了解她的亲友们都不会计较。梁思庄的女儿吴荔明曾回忆说:

我的妈妈,一直和二舅妈相处得很好,她们还在十几岁时就相识了,后来又一起在国外留学。由于共同接受了西方教育,使她们有很多共同语言,亲如姐妹。……妈妈说二舅妈林徽因是“刀子嘴豆腐心”,别看她嘴巴很厉害,但心眼好。她喜怒形于色,绝对真实。正因为妈妈对二舅妈的性格为人有这样深刻的认识,才能使她们姑嫂两人始终是好朋友。

1936年1月,丧夫的梁思庄带着女儿从广州回到北平,初到北平时住在梁家,林徽因还写信同费慰梅唠叨了一番——面对琐碎的家务事,她总是无力招架,经常会发牢骚。尽管如此,林徽因对梁思庄母女特别好,即使在外地考察也要特意写信,询问她们是否安顿好了。

梁思成的第二任妻子林洙曾在《梁思成、林徽因与我》中提到,她以“同乡”身份到清华先修班学习时,被介绍给林徽因,林徽因主动热心地给她补习英文。后来,林洙要和在清华任教的男友结婚,但经济困窘。林徽因知道后找到她,告诉她营造学社有一笔款项专门用来资助青年学生,让她先用。看到对方一脸窘迫,林徽因立刻安慰说:“不要紧的,你可以先借用,以后再还。”之后不由分说把存折塞给了她,还送了一套青花瓷杯盘做贺礼。后来林洙想还这笔钱,却被林徽因“严厉”地退了回来。

“林徽因式”的热忱,包裹着尖锐的刺。如果你不能接受这些尖利的表象,就无法触及她内心的柔软。好在林徽因的朋友们都能包容她最“坏”的那一面。因为他们知道,这个美丽的嘴上不饶人的女学者,“好”的那面是值得结交一生的。

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    Standard Shipping is $5.99 (Excluding Alaska & Hawaii). Free on orders of $49 or more.

    Local Express is $5.99 (Available in Parts of CA, NJ, MA & PA). Free on orders of $49 or more.

    2-Day Express (Includes Alaska & Hawaii) starts at $19.99.

Return Policy

You may return product within 30 days upon receiving the product. Items returned must be new in it's original packing, including the original invoice for the purchase. Customer return product at their own expense.

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Service Guarantee

Yami Cross-store Free Shipping over $69
Yami 30-days Return

Yami-China FC

Yami has a consolidation warehouse in China which collects multiple sellers’ packages and combines to one order. Our Yami consolidation warehouse will directly ship the packages to your door. Cross-store free shipping over $69.

Return Policy

You may return products within 30 days upon receiving the products. Sellers take responsibilities for any wrong shipment or missing items. Packing needs to be unopened for any other than quality issues return. We promise to pack carefully, but because goods are taking long journey to destinations, simple damages to packaging may occur. Any damages not causing internal goods quality problems are not allowed to return. If you open the package and any quality problem is found, please contact customer service within three days after receipt of goods.

Shipping Information

Yami Consolidation Service Shipping Fee $9.99(Free shipping over $69)

Sellers in China will ship their orders within 1-2 business days once the order is placed. Packages are sent to our consolidation warehouse in China and combined there. Our Yami consolidation warehouse will directly ship the packages to you via UPS. The average time for UPS to ship from China to the United States is about 10 working days and it can be traced using the tracking number. Due to the pandemic, the delivery time may be delayed by about 5 days. The package needs to be signed by the guest. If the receipt is not signed, the customer shall bear the risk of loss of the package.

Sold by JD@CHINA

Service Guarantee

Free shipping over 69
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Shipping

Yami Consolidated Shipping $9.99(Free shipping over $69)


Seller will ship the orders within 1-2 business days. The logistics time limit is expected to be 7-15 working days. In case of customs clearance, the delivery time will be extended by 3-7 days. The final receipt date is subject to the information of the postal company.

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Return Policy

You may return product within 30 days upon receiving the product. Items returned must be new in it's original packing, including the original invoice for the purchase. Customer return product at their own expense.

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