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★作者是简书签约作者,是二更食堂专栏作者,是多家主流报刊公众号特邀作者,在网络媒体上异常活跃,具有很高的人气。
★作者写活了自己的经历,写活了当下年轻人正在面对的所有现实坚持,并揭示了“死撑到底,你就赢了”这一极易被我们怠慢的生活真理。
★女性×姑娘×青春×梦想×坚持×努力×成功×精进×功利×世界×今天×未来×生活×心灵,作者写透了年轻女孩为生存为生活为梦想而奋斗的当下心情和处境。
★超人气作家杨熹文作序/李尚龙、徐沪生联袂推荐。

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我哪懂什么坚持,全靠死撑!
这是我们强烈的生活感受,这感受中有执拗的过去,有热烈的今天,有摇摆的未来。
我们对生活充满期待,而又总是伴随着小小的纠结、迷茫和挣扎。
谁的生活没有呛鼻的酸辣?
谁的生活少得了匆匆的笑与泪?
生活给我们以最初的自觉,我们在生活里种下希望。我们都希望自己的生活充满收获的喜悦,可我们总得为明天留下点深刻,比如拼搏的汗水,以及挫折的痛。
生活,并不是遥远的梦。
在生活里坚持的人,一定是zui美的。

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文长长,原名文琳琳,“烈酒小清新”一枚。简书签约作者,二更食堂专栏作者,多家主流报刊公众号特邀作者。

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PART 1 女孩柔弱,却要用力生活
努力的姑娘,就该得到命运的垂青
你不可能总拿一手好牌
我们既有软肋,也有铠甲
用自己的方式,过擅长的一生
从今天开始,不再活在别人的期待里
你不是忙,只是没那么热爱
PART 2 我哪懂什么坚持,全靠死撑
你要努力,但千万别着急
努力的姑娘,运气不会太差
想太多,说不定连开始的勇气都没有
不想委屈自己,那就做自己
我们都是解决生活难题的学生
坚持到底,就是咬咬牙
PART 3 嘿,不要用过去套住未来
我不想要有太多套路的爱
姑娘,你所谓的安全感不是别人能给的
你真的没必要跟他的前女友较劲
我想和你谈场异地恋
女生就是喜欢听“我爱你”
喜欢我的人多了,你算老几
PART 4 你若无聊,那就没得聊
爱情是自私的,你我的都是
一辈子很长,要和有趣的人在一起
一个优秀女朋友的基本标准
找个爱你但也有能力的男朋友
和靠谱的人谈场走心的恋爱
PART 5 与昨天告别,哪怕情深意重
我曾以朋友的名义爱过你
你是女生,那么拼干吗
哭前,请记得要先卸妆
真正的朋友,真没几个
你可以干掉我,但我的骄傲还在
PART 6 爱我的人,请你炫耀我
父母反对的男朋友,你还嫁吗
有一种爱,叫作“我不想让我爸担心”
我想成为你们炫耀的资本
这个世界还有温柔,值得我们去善良
我很羡慕围着一张桌子吃饭的他们
不要让父母在我们面前变得小心翼翼
PART 7 未来是靠自己撑起来的
我们不必讨好这个世界
别人只是看上去轻易成功了
这个世界上有比“我要赢”更重要的事
真正的自卑是说不出口的
我很感谢那个混蛋的过去
我没有背景,我就是自己最好的背景
我已学着去原谅这个世界
希望下次见面,你说“你变得更好了”
人生是与孤独相伴到底的旅行

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从今天开始,不再活在别人的期待里
01
《无声告白》里有一句话深深地击中了我——我们终其一生,就是要摆脱别人的期待,找到真正的自己。人生那么短暂,诱惑和困难都那么多,我们随时要做好单枪匹马为梦想而战的准备,远离那些不断消耗你的人与事,最起码要保持距离,不然耗着耗着,人生就没了。
大一那年,我算是特立独行的,早上没课的时候,我还会坚持七点早起去图书馆。平时没事,我也会选择去图书馆,或者去参加各种活动,相比每天在寝室睡觉、看连续剧的室友,我的生活真的还算励志。慢慢地,因为我早起,室友说我吵到了她们,甚至还会拉着我说:“寝室也可以复习,不要去图书馆了。”她们也会很好心地建议我不要起那么早。在我拒绝了她们所有的建议之后,她们选择孤立我,甚至是为难我。
她们三个会一起说我早起声响大,打扰她们睡觉;每次去图书馆,她们会冷嘲热讽地说我是“好学生”;她们只要白天睡觉,不管我在不在,都会关窗帘关灯,直接忽视我。最开始,我会以为真的是我影响她们了,后来我明白了,她们只是在不择手段地抱团逼我和她们一起堕落。
02
这个世界真的有一些人是这样的:在她不想努力的时候,她也绝不允许你努力;在发现你努力的时候,她们会抱团逼你一起堕落,去消耗你。还好,那时候我坚持了下来,哪怕被当作“异类”,也没让她们得逞。
也许在最开始,我就知道成长路上能够陪我一起共同进步的人真的不多。人本是孤独的,又或许是我一直能坚持不被消耗,所以生活中真正能让我烦心的事真不多。
我们被身边的人和事打扰心情时,只因看事情的角度不一样,所采取的措施也就不同。对那类乱我心的事情,我通常有两种解决措施:第一,对于我觉得很重要的事情,我会投入较多的精力去解决,就算不能解决,也要把损失最小化,实在解决不了的,我也只会最多给自己两天时间去难过,然后重新投入工作和生活;第二,对于那些不重要的事情,我是更不会给此事太多机会去消耗我自己。
有段时间,我总是被人际关系牵着鼻子走,特别在意一些无谓的东西,整天被侵蚀却不自知。有个女生不是很喜欢我,跟身边的人说我的坏话,我很在意,也很难过,试图努力去搞好这段关系,但始终没有好起来,最后我被弄得精疲力竭,于是索性就让她说去。后来,我受周国平先生的启发,对于人际关系,我也总结出了一个最合乎我的性情的原则:尊重他人,亲疏随缘。
那些我不喜欢的、无用的负面情绪,我都称之为侵蚀我的东西,我不会让负能量侵蚀我的正能量,我会极力避开他们。
很多无谓的事情让我烦躁不安的时候,我总是一遍又一遍地对自己说:“坚决不要被无谓的事情烦扰,有那些烦恼的时间,还不如去看一本书,看一部美剧,或者出去打打球。”我宁愿把自己的时间花在提升自己的地方,也不要浪费在一些不值得的小事上,纠结只会让自己被负能量侵蚀。
当室友拉着我聊没有营养而我又不感兴趣的八卦时,我会转身离开去干我的事;当被别人误解而我知道我解释没用的时候,我会选择闭口不争辩;当室友一起孤立我说我不合群的时候,我会选择继续做我该做的事。因为挂在我们嘴边的“不忘初心”,并不是说说而已,我们都会有自己想做的事,何必让无谓的因素消耗自己呢?很多时候,所谓的合群,不过是在浪费人生。
也许有人会说:“你就是一个极度自私、自我的人。”
嗯,我会承认我的自我,但是那不是自私。“自我”这个词是指以自我为中心,但是在我这里,我觉得自我是有主见,不会让一些无谓的事情影响我。当别人都选择睡觉的时候,我不需要找个伴儿,自己一个人看书、写字,做我想做的事;当大家都想着上班混个基本工资时,我积极表现自己、提升自己;当别人会为未发生的某些事担心,我会努力去用行动来安抚我的内心。这是自我,但不是自私,我的自我提升并没有损害任何人的利益。
这也不是异类,我只是很珍惜时间,很热爱我的生活,我只是想停留在更多美好的事情上,害怕被不美好的事情消耗。
03
很多时候,“异类”往往更容易成功。金庸笔下的杨过算是一个比较典型的异类,不受世俗约束,黄蓉觉得他简直荒唐得不可理喻,全真教以及各大门派都觉得他简直就是一个笑话。金庸给我们成功地塑造了一个异类,一个最终成功了的异类。杨过有自己的目标,那就是和小龙女在一起。杨过很自我,别人都不做的事他做了并坚持了下来。他拜小龙女为师,勤学武功,最终成为一代大侠并且实现了跟小龙女在一起的愿望。无疑,他的人生是成功的。他那被当作异类的一步步,都是在朝着他的目标靠近,也是在善良地帮助别人,哪来的什么自私?
我们不去说新东方的俞敏洪、阿里巴巴的马云,在高考一次又一次失利后,如何坚持不放弃,最终成就了辉煌的人生,就单纯来说说我们。我们是伟大世界中的小人物,但我们又并不渺小,因为许多大人物也都有着卑微的过去。若我们每天都只为了不被当作异类和讨好这个世界,做着那些没有辨识度,甚至是连自己都不知道为什么要做的事,那我们这一辈子也许注定普普通通。
当然,我口中的“特立独行”也没有那么深不可测,只不过是坚持自我,坚持不被一口叫作“普通”的大染缸染成千篇一律的色彩。
身为单独的个体,我们有必要对自己负责,做自己想做的事情并坚持下去,哪怕周围的人都嘲笑你。或许,只有那些被嘲笑的梦想,才更值得坚持。
如果可以,请远离那些会消耗你的人和事。
我们要远离那些负能量的人,同时,我们也要尽量把自己培养成一个正能量的人;少在意一点别人的看法,多关心一下自己心里真正想要的;一直努力提升自己,让自己成为一个有价值的人,去做一些有意义的事。作为地球上独一无二的你,你有义务坚持自己,不让自己被无谓的事情消耗,去变成更好的你,去感受生命中的真正美好。
……
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努力的人总要走一段孤独的路
第一次读到文长长的文字,在刚巧悠闲的午后,阳光从脖颈蔓延到后背,长长的故事在眼前铺开来,渐渐呈现出一个倔强的形象。我感慨这是个多努力也多清醒的姑娘,她把自己的经历娓娓道来:坚持在大学中做一个上进的人,如何把文字从爱好写成职业,在一场高质量的爱情中成为一个更好的人……这个姑娘的一篇文章令我印象深刻,《从今天开始,不再活在别人的期待里》,她写着自己与周遭格格不入却依旧坚持梦想的生活。独行的故事总能击中我的心窝,那篇文章的开场白,是同样也激励着我的一段话,伍绮诗的《无声告白》里有这样一句话:“我们终其一生,就是要摆脱别人的期待,找到真正的自己。”
我在回忆起自己的奋斗经历时,发现孤独占据了那段时光的大半空间。我一个人背着重重的行李出国,一个人居无定所、四处漂泊,一个人在凌晨走在打工的路上,一个人吃冰冷而寂寞的晚饭,一个人在灯下写字等待黎明的到来……这样的孤独,无数次变成失落降临在生活里,却也变成了一种成全,让那一天好过一天的日子,就在这属于一个人的执着不懈中,踏踏实实地走来了。
大概我和长长都是属于励志体质的女孩子,有过这样一个人抵抗孤独闷声拼搏的日子,所以读起她的文字,我觉得格外亲切。长长的这本书,谈爱情、梦想、生活,都是从自己和周边朋友的真实经历里,发掘出细小而真实的道理,热烈又温情。除了长长写下的自己——那个看似与周遭格格不入,暗地里和负能量做斗争,宁愿孤独也勇往直前的倔强姑娘,她在更多文章中写下的文字,也都是我一直以来所坚信的道理。她温情地说:“失恋是一场重症感冒,但总有痊愈的那天。”她真诚地讲:“你一定要努力,但千万别着急。”她告诉我“我哪懂什么坚持,全靠死撑”,也清醒决绝地写下“只有我们能够决定自己的样子”……
在这本写给追梦年轻人的书中,长长不仅诚恳地分享了自己的奋斗,也大方讲述了自己的困惑,告诉我们这就是一条成长的道路,需要不断用希望去代替绝望,披上坚持,戴上勇气,哪怕这一条路处处艰险,付出孤独的代价,也要拼尽全力去试一试,看自己能够成为怎样的英雄。而总有一天,这从青春那条路上走来的更好的你,就是对回忆最好的铭记。
一直以来非常喜欢这样一句话:“我只是不希望任何人在大限未到之时就提前死去。”希望长长的文字可以鼓励所有的年轻人,要用尽全力去实现心底的梦想,不要辜负那美好的人生,而在这条追梦之路上,也许苦难会占据绝对的篇幅,可那正是因为努力的人总要走一段孤独的路,这条路的尽头叫梦想。
杨熹文
2016年6月1日
于初冬的新西兰


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Yami Consolidated Shipping $9.99(Free shipping over $69)


Seller will ship the orders within 1-2 business days. The logistics time limit is expected to be 7-15 working days. In case of customs clearance, the delivery time will be extended by 3-7 days. The final receipt date is subject to the information of the postal company.

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You may return product within 30 days upon receiving the product. Items returned must be new in it's original packing, including the original invoice for the purchase. Customer return product at their own expense.

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