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致成长中的你 十五封青春书简

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青少年成长知己、青春期孩子的灵魂摆渡人殷健灵给青春期男孩、女孩的心灵成长书,十五封信,包含青春期男孩、女孩敏感的自我认识、人际交流、人格修炼、爱情、亲情、成长等各个方面,笔法细腻,亲切灵动,让青少年在唯美的散文化语言中,寻找到心灵的栖息地。

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殷健灵,1971年10月生于上海,在南京近郊度过童年和少年时代。法学学士,文学硕士。1998年加入中国作家协会。做过女性杂志主编,现为《新民晚报》首席编辑,上海作家协会主席团委员。
18岁在《少年文艺》(上海)发表处女作,从此与儿童文学结缘。以青少年文学创作为主。写作体裁涉及诗歌、散文、小说、报告文学、评论等。主要作品:长篇小说《纸人》《哭泣精灵》《月亮茶馆里的童年》《轮子上的麦小麦》《橘子鱼》《蜻蜓,蜻蜓》《风中之樱》《千万个明天》《1937·少年夏之秋》《天上的船》和《甜心小米》系列,以及散文《爱——外婆和我》《致未来的你——给女孩的十五封信》等。另著有《零度情感》《俯瞰天堂——米开朗基罗艺术与人生的昼夜晨暮》等成人文学专著。
部分作品翻译成瑞典文、英文、日文、韩文、法文等。
曾获陈伯吹国际儿童文学奖、冰心图书奖大奖、“巨人”中长篇小说奖、台湾“好书大家读”优佳少年儿童读物奖、第四届上海市十大文化新人、第八届上海幼儿文学奖一等奖、《儿童文学》首届十大青年金作家等。并获2013和2014年度国际林格伦纪念奖提名。

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第一封信:请从镜子里面对自己
第二封信:你拥有很多爱,为什么仍然孤独
第三封信:为什么要上学
第四封信:受欢迎的人
第五封信:生命旅途,每个阶段都有意义
第六封信:面对不可理喻的世界
第七封信:沟通的力量
第八封信:不断敞开的未来:没有绝望
第九封信:“喜欢”与“爱情”
第十封信:有一种爱与生俱来
第十一封信:从文学中寻找答案
第十二封信:发现诗意之美
第十三封信:身体里那只蛰伏的小兽
第十四封信:恻隐之心和虔敬之心
第十五封信:太阳在选择中上升
Book Abstract

亲爱的J:
这已不是我第一次给你写信了。
我曾经以各种方式在纸上和你对话,向你讲述那些过去了的和正在发生的故事,那些故事或是让你感到新鲜,或是让你从中窥见自己。我讲述,是在回望来路,也希冀这些故事化作一盏盏夜色中的暖灯,为你照亮前行的路。
J,我清楚地意识到你不是特定的一个人,而是不断长大着的一代人。
你是一群我看不真切的影子,一拨一拨从我眼前经过。
像植物一般,你蓬蓬勃勃地生长,渴望着黎明的晨曦和晶莹欲滴的露水。你以为全世界都可以看到你,可是,你却偏偏看不清楚自己。
你央求我一遍一遍讲述,讲述已经不再新鲜的故事。
当然,我也愿意讲述。只要生命没有停止生长,那些话题永不过时。
这一次,我依然要为你写十五封信。第一封信,让我们来说说——镜子。
J,你是否记得,从什么时候开始,你清楚地意识到了自己的长大?
你又是否能清晰地回忆起,第一次从镜子里专注地打量自己,是在什么时候?
你能接受镜子里看到的自己吗?你喜欢那个镜子里的你吗?
说起来,我对镜子的记忆始于幼年时。那时候,只有四五岁的样子。我住在一栋灰色楼房的底层,靠西的那一套公寓。房子外面便是一堵爬满绿藤的山墙。我时常跑到房子外面,看天空,看山墙上恣肆生长的藤蔓,也看三三两两经过的大人和小孩。有时候,只是安静地蹲在走道里,用白色的滑石笔在水泥地上画画。
丹姐姐有时会站在旁边看我画画,她是我的邻居。丹姐姐上初中了,她的头发是卷的,是自己用卷发棒烫出来的卷儿。她并不与我说话,只是漠无表情地看,看了一会儿,别转身走回家里去了。她的房门半敞着,并不忌讳别人看到她在做什么。或者说,她并不在意门外的小人儿,她愿意做什么就做什么。
我看见她站在了大衣柜的镜子前,用唇膏在自己的嘴唇上轻轻涂抹,她的嘴唇呈现了浓艳的鲜红。她对着镜子做出各种表情,或笑,或皱眉,或作委屈状。她又摆出各种姿势,或叉腰,或侧身,陶醉地凝视镜子里自己的侧影。她对着镜子里的自己微笑。
接下来,她又做了一件让我惊奇的事。她从一堆衣服里抽出一条丝绸短裙,将它揉成一团拽在手里。然后撩起自己的裙摆,将她手中那团东西塞了进去,正好是臀部的位置。那团东西便将她的臀部撑得丰满无比,她俨然有了成熟女性的身材。她按着自己的“臀部”,在镜子前学着模特扭动腰枝走了几步,一边回过头去自恋地欣赏自己的步态。
我在门外看呆了。
年幼的我,并不明白丹姐姐为什么要这样做。但眼前的一切,又分明给了我小小的“惊觉”。过了一些年,当少女的我也时常在镜子前流连时,总会想起幼年时见到的一幕,它曾让我萌生强烈的模仿冲动——我喜欢丹姐姐在镜子前微笑的表情。
J,你知道吗?长大着的我们,往往是从“镜子”里首先意识到自己的存在的。
心理学一直把“照镜子”看成是体验自我的重要时刻。据说,连猩猩照镜子时都会露出惊讶的表情——因为它看到了自己。
而我们最初也是通过照镜子来发现自我的。我们通过镜子看到自己的形体和样貌,日后对自我的想象便是以镜子里看到的自己作为依据的。因此,悦纳自己的形象,是我们认可和喜欢自己的前提。
可是偏偏,并不是每个孩子都能接受和喜欢自己的样貌。我也是这样的。
我上小学六年级的时候,刚刚步入青春期,人突然又瘦又高,笨拙得像只长脚鹭鸶。我不满意自己的长相,觉得自己眉毛稀疏,鼻梁扁塌,唯有在微微低下颌骨照镜子的时候,因为视角的关系,脸的轮廓变成了瓜子型,觉得唯有那个角度的自己才是可以勉强接受的。于是,我在那个年龄的留影,无一不是微收颌骨,低头看着前方。今天看来,那些照片里的自己,显得古怪严肃,其实一点都不美。
然而,那个时候的我,收藏着自己的小秘密,也没人告诉我,那个样子并不美。反而是那些轻松自在、面带微笑时不经意间摄下的留影,在今天看来,是美而自然的。
当一个孩子告别童年步入青春,他(她)便会遭遇青春期的生长突进。那些变化,是突然来到的。体重迅速增长,男孩和女孩仿佛一夜之间拥有了意味着长大的身体标记:男孩子暗哑变粗的声线,隐隐约约的喉结;女孩子生命的初潮,胸前绽放的蓓蕾……更有意思的是,你会发现,我们身体的发育并不是均速地长成大人的样子,而是手和脚先长到成年人的大小,手臂和腿紧跟其后,而躯干的生长最为缓慢——于是,我们成了比例失调的“长脚鹭鸶”。
J,巨大的生理变化仿佛生命的潮汐,推动着你,也困扰着你。这样的滋味,每个长大着的人都会领受。你可知道,有科学家对来自十个国家和地区(包括美国、孟加拉国、土耳其和中国台湾)的青少年进行调查,发现有38%的女孩和27%的男孩认为自己容貌丑陋,缺少吸引力。我想,假如当年十三岁的我也参与调查,多半是归类到这38%的女孩里面了。而今天的我,早已不是如此看待自己了。
一个孩子接纳自己,一定是从接纳自己的身体外形和面部特征开始的。
J,你知道吗?心理医生为当事人提供求询时,如果当事人不能够认同自我,比如认为自己不聪明、不可爱,不受人欢迎,或者挑剔自己眼睛小了、个子矮了,脸不是瓜子形等,心理医生就会建议他们去照镜子,并且学习对着镜子微笑。因为,你所认为的自己,并不是真实的你。你在内心幻想一个完美的标杆,一旦看到的自己与之有差距,你就会对自己产生不满,甚至憎厌自己。
可是,事实并不是这样的。美的标准,犹如四处攀附、寻找藤架的牵牛花。它时常在变。正如唐朝以胖为美,而在上世纪三十年代,脸蛋红润、富于肉感的年轻姑娘在全世界都很受欢迎,直到九十年代,人们才开始“以瘦为美”。既然美的标准会因时代、地域和文化而改变,那总有什么是不变的吧?
是的,当然有不变的东西。正因为美来源于人的主观感受,受人的情感的影响,因此,美的感受,一定来自人的心灵。面对同样的风景,人在心绪愉快和悲哀时的感觉一定是不一样的,一个悲哀的人,是看不到这个世界的美的。当一个人爱上另一个人,一定会忽略对方相貌的缺陷。而你们的父母,也一定不会在乎自己的孩子的长相。所以,与其去追寻不断变化的美的标准,不如守定自己的一颗心——一颗完全能悦纳自己的心灵。
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亲爱的读者:
2013年,我替青岛出版社写了我的第一本书信体散文集,叫做《致未来的你——给女孩的十五封信》。这不是一本短时写就的书,里面的篇章其实凝聚了写作二十来年对成长的零星思考,只是以书信形式系统化了而已。我在里面,谈到了女孩成长中可能遇到的一些问题。我并不想居高临下以一个成人身份教化她们,只是作为一个“曾经的女孩”,与今天的女孩倾心交谈。我想让她们看清成长中的自己,也能触摸到并不遥远的未来。女孩时的我,懵懂孤独,热切渴望一个能读懂我内心并且引领我往前走的伙伴。可惜那时候没有。在我长大执笔写作之后,便希望自己能成为年少时渴望的那个人。
原本,并没有希望它能产生多大的影响。没想到印行一年多,销量甚广,也得到了多种奖项,许多中小学校将它列入课外必读书,读者更是由衷首肯。时不时会收到来自各种渠道的读者反馈,还有雪片一般飞来的手写信——她们并没有很多问题要我作答,有时候只为了倾诉,因为在她们看来,我大概是一个能够理解和读懂她们的大朋友。更有很多成年读者说,遗憾她们少女时代没有这样一本书,倘若有,她们的人生或许会有所不同……我忽然发现,对于成长中的少年读者,和小说、诗歌相比,他们从这类书信体散文中所获得的感触和启悟,可能更加直接,也更加显见。
我后来想到,在原先的十五封信里,有些问题没有谈深谈透,尚嫌粗浅;还有一些,不仅适用于女孩,还可以针对所有男孩和女孩的;另有一些,虽非人人关心,却是我个人认为一个“人格完善的人”应该具备的……当长江文艺出版社力邀我再写一本书信体散文时,也就应允了。我想利用这个机会,在原有文本的基础上,做新的扩充和阐释,谈一些男孩和女孩皆宜的问题,在接下来的几个月时间里,陆续写成了这全新的十五封青春书简。
我写信的对象叫J(在曾经出版的主题系列小说集《纯真记事簿》里,也有这样一个人物,我在小说里时常用到这个字母)。J,并不玄奥,它是英语“少年”Juvenile的首字母。这些信是写给J的,自然也是写给所有成长中的少年的。J在生活中并没有具体的存在,但他始终存在于我的心里,伴随过我多年的写作生涯。
我并不是一个深刻博学的人,只是信仰“人同此心心同此理”,习惯在写作中始终寄寓真情。希望在这里,也能动用我四十多年的人生积蓄,不煽情,不说教,用真心换真心。
有人曾问我,对你影响最大的一本书是什么?我总是无法作答。只能说,无数本好书滋养过我,我从它们中间所汲取的无法以斤两分毫比较。因此,这本小书也只是你阅读生涯中的浮云片光。惟愿它能成为滋养你的万千书中之一种,倘若它能占有你成长中的某一短暂时光,并且慰藉过你的心灵,我心足矣。

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Yami Consolidation Service Shipping Fee $9.99(Free shipping over $69)

Sellers in China will ship their orders within 1-2 business days once the order is placed. Packages are sent to our consolidation warehouse in China and combined there. Our Yami consolidation warehouse will directly ship the packages to you via UPS. The average time for UPS to ship from China to the United States is about 10 working days and it can be traced using the tracking number. Due to the pandemic, the delivery time may be delayed by about 5 days. The package needs to be signed by the guest. If the receipt is not signed, the customer shall bear the risk of loss of the package.

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Yami Consolidated Shipping $9.99(Free shipping over $69)


Seller will ship the orders within 1-2 business days. The logistics time limit is expected to be 7-15 working days. In case of customs clearance, the delivery time will be extended by 3-7 days. The final receipt date is subject to the information of the postal company.

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Return Policy

You may return product within 30 days upon receiving the product. Items returned must be new in it's original packing, including the original invoice for the purchase. Customer return product at their own expense.

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